Things I've learned

Yes, I know - it's been awhile....life gets in the way.  Getting thru some stuff with my son, watching G move forward in his life, and watching his youngest on an emotional roller coaster of denial.  Really praying for that last item. 

So along with my friend Jessica (Bessica) getting married (YEAH JESS!!), makes me think - what can I pass on that I have learned....tidbits of advice........here goes a few tasty tidbits.

1 - Don't burn bridges
People come in and out of our lives sometimes in a revolving door pattern - still, no matter what - kindness and being CORDIAL to all, regardless of slights, comments, issues you have - unless you are putting your morals and values at risk, just let it be and be nice.  You never know down the road, when you have to cross the bridge they own, rent or are responsible for.
2 - Cats WON'T be ignored.
MeMe(aka Mercedes) will reach out in FULL claw to patt you on the arm, head, leg -just to let you know - "DON'T you DARE walk by ME without worshiping"  Dave on the other hand - he will head butt you eventually if you don't pet him when HE wants.  Also, he will pee on whatever he feels to get your attention that 'my toilet is full - empty human!"  He's teaching Ginny the same thing - damn cats!!
3 - Ex's are just that.
Don't recycle cuz they are convenient - I hear my friends doing it and I roll my eyes - the same reason it didn't work the first time - same reason second......third......fourth....
4 - Marriage equates WORK
In a society that is focused on the here and RIGHT NOW, the idea of W-O-R-K is unheard of.  Yes, you are NOT going to get along.  Yes, you are going to have others who think what's yours should be THEIRS.  Yes, you DO need to make your partnership with that person you married a PRIORITY.  YES, communication is CRUCIAL to the success.  YES - intimacy is vital and needs to be treasured and protected and YES - MARRIAGE IS A COVENANT UNDER GOD!!!  Not a piece of paper.  You don't believe in GOD, you don't have a marriage (yes ppl, I know - but GOD has shown me - HE does MATTER in the success!!) 
5 - That my Grandmother, Charlotte was really my dad's mom.  - long story - but I miss her so much!
6 - Duct tape ROCKS and should be a requirement to pass high school - along with financial responsibility and parental licensing. 
7 - Forgiveness is a CHOICE.
8 - LOVE is a VERB.
9 - There are ALWAYS two sides to EVERY story.
10 - LET GO and LET GOD!